SAVE THE DATE: June 23-24, 2012
The Lake at the St. Benedict Retreat Center
Overview of Fathers and Sons Together
This weekend is about spending quality time together as father and son. As boys move toward their pre-teen and teenage years, they are attracted to a newfound sense of "freedom" often referred to as the "moving away phase". In addition to more independence, it also becomes a time of less intimacy and less talking. This retreat provides an opportunity for fathers and their sons to talk, share, and experience what is really important in their relationship.
A father’s active presence is crucial for his son’s faith development, especially in adolescence. This retreat provides opportunities for open communication in the context of faith between fathers and their pre-adolescent and adolescent sons, and offers assistance to fathers in fostering their sons’ growth into mature manhood.
This weekend is about spending quality time together as father and son. As boys move toward their pre-teen and teenage years, they are attracted to a newfound sense of "freedom" often referred to as the "moving away phase". In addition to more independence, it also becomes a time of less intimacy and less talking. This retreat provides an opportunity for fathers and their sons to talk, share, and experience what is really important in their relationship.
A father’s active presence is crucial for his son’s faith development, especially in adolescence. This retreat provides opportunities for open communication in the context of faith between fathers and their pre-adolescent and adolescent sons, and offers assistance to fathers in fostering their sons’ growth into mature manhood.
Themes explored in light of the Catholic Faith
dynamics of the father-son relationship
growth into manhood
dealing with emotions
improving communication
the vocations of father and son
the search for identity
Becoming the father God calls us to be
dynamics of the father-son relationship
growth into manhood
dealing with emotions
improving communication
the vocations of father and son
the search for identity
Becoming the father God calls us to be
For information about the weekend, contact:
Ed DeSimone, Ph.D., Retreat Leader
402-280-2979 (Day) or 402-333-4351 (Evening)
or e-mail us at: Fathersandsons@cox.net
See below to find out more about Fathers and Sons Together.
To Register, please click on the Registration tab at the top of this page.
402-280-2979 (Day) or 402-333-4351 (Evening)
or e-mail us at: Fathersandsons@cox.net
See below to find out more about Fathers and Sons Together.
To Register, please click on the Registration tab at the top of this page.
Talks and Themes
One-on-one time
As with other retreats, one of the central activities revolves around "the talks". They help to provide a focus and direction for the interactions which follow. Each talk has a "theme". These are listed in the weekend schedule.
All of the talks are given by dads who have "been there, done that". While there is a certain learning component in each talk, the retreat is about relationships, communication, and feeling. Yes, men have feelings (just watch a guy after his favorite team loses!).
After each talk, fathers and their sons have one-on-one time to talk about their reactions to the talk and how it applies to them. This one-on-one time is the most positive component in each year's evaluations.
All of the talks are given by dads who have "been there, done that". While there is a certain learning component in each talk, the retreat is about relationships, communication, and feeling. Yes, men have feelings (just watch a guy after his favorite team loses!).
After each talk, fathers and their sons have one-on-one time to talk about their reactions to the talk and how it applies to them. This one-on-one time is the most positive component in each year's evaluations.
Prayer and Spirituality
Main Chapel
In his book, "The 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers", Ken Canfield lists #6 as "spiritual equipping". The weekend provides an opportunity for father and son to spend time together in a number of prayerful experiences. In addition to the chapel (at left), there is a serene 24-hour adoration chapel, an outdoor stations of the cross experience, reconciliation, benediction, and morning prayer. All of these are optional opportunities in which father and son can participate if they choose. Many of the sons who attend this weekend retreat, have never had the opportunity to participate in some of these activities.
Rooms
Typical room
The St. Benedict Center is built like a hotel and conference center. Fathers and sons share a modern but simple room with 2 double beds. There is a modern bathroom and shower in each room. Catholic bibles are there for those who choose to read them. Each room includes a clock for wake-up. However, there are no TV's, radios, or any other modern communication device. Retreatants are asked not to bring MP3 and CD players, or any hand-held devices. The weekend is about communication and sharing each other's company.
Fun Activities
Fathers and Sons Playing Dodgeball!
As the saying goes... "All work and no play...". The activity that gets most of the fathers and sons roarin' and runnin' are the "fathers against the sons" dodgeball games. Sons get to take on their dads in the intense (but fun!) dodgeball competition. To date, the dads have won almost every game. After this, fathers get to team up with their sons in the waterballoon toss to see which team can toss their waterballoons the farthest. After the sun goes down, there is an always fun hayrack ride (actually there are 2 hayracks because of all the fathers and sons) which goes through the back roads and around the farm fields of Schuyler. The evening ends with the fathers and sons playing all sorts of card games and board games until lights out.
Sunday Mass
Fathers Blessing Their Sons During Mass
On Sunday morning, after the last talk, everyone attends Mass. This is a very special Mass for all of the fathers and sons because during the normal blessing at the end of Mass, a very special "blessing ritual" takes place in which the fathers are able to provide a traditional blessing of their sons.
Food:
While all of the activities are important, we have to let everyone know that the home cooking at the St. Benedict Center is as good as you will find anywhere. Anyone who has raised teenage boys knows that an all-you-can-eat buffet of home cooking (with great desserts) will top off any family outing.
If you belong to the Boy Scouts of America:
This event meets Scouting retreat requirements for Ad Altare Dei and Pius XII awards.
Cost for the weekend:
$153.86 (tax included) for Father and Son together. This includes meals, materials and overnight stay.
Fathers and Sons Together is fully compliant with the Safe Environment policies of the Archdiocese of Omaha and the Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People of the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops.
Sponsored by The St. Benedict Center
For information about the St. Benedict Retreat Center,
call the Center at: 402-352-8819
or visit the center at:
http://www.stbenedictcenter.com
call the Center at: 402-352-8819
or visit the center at:
http://www.stbenedictcenter.com
Sponsored by The Pro-Sanctity Center
For information about the Pro-Sanctity Movement and the Pro-Sanctity Center, call the Center in Elkhorn at 402-289-2670
or visit the center at:
http://www.prosanctity.org
or visit the center at:
http://www.prosanctity.org